When we first heard about Corona Virus it sounded like a terrible thing to be happening to the people halfway around the world. But as days turned into weeks, and weeks have turned into a month and a half, we are realizing the true, frightening global and personal impact of this new sickness. Many people and families are using the hindsight of what is happening in China and Italy to have the foresight to prepare for what could happen in other countries — what could happen in our country. As such, many are finding themselves in a self-imposed quarantine, assuming it’s only a matter of time until it’s government mandated. Quarantine can have negative effects, which we are all weary of, but this post is to put a positive twist on a dark time, by highlighting the silver lining of quarantine.
The Silver Lining of Quarantine
In our typical, busy, work-filled, chore-doing, errand-running daily lives, we rarely get the downtime as a family to truly spend time together and focus on each other.
But right now, as we undertake social distancing measures and quarantine ourselves, we literally have no place to go.
None of us has ever seen a time like what we are going through and about to go through:
A time when we must stay home.
A time when the hours and days do not carry the same rushed pressure as usual.
A time when, if we allow, we can let our usual distractions fall away, and give our attention to what truly matters — the loved ones in our household.
I am not discounting the fear and frenzy, the stress of a bizarre or impossible work situation, the anticipation of the economical impact, or the anxieties of what is to come;
however, I am encouraging us all to give ourselves permission while we are confined within our homes to place energy into our family and focus on spending time together.
The Most ‘Present’ You Have Ever Been
So often we wish we had more time in the day to get things done, to check items off our to-do lists, and to spend time with our family and children. Well, as unfortunate and scary as circumstances are as we quarantine ourselves to buffer against the Corona Virus, now is that time.
Now, when your kids are taking forever to get ready in the morning, it’s okay. You aren’t under the same time crunch and you can relieve them and yourself of that pressure.
Now, when your stubborn toddler wants to put on his shoes by himself, and you normally do it for him because who has the time? Well, now you do.
Now, when your preschooler can’t get her foot to slide through her pant legs and it leads to a meltdown, you have the time to give her some extra love and encouragement.
Now, you and your kids can actually practice their ineffective self-hygiene skills so that they gain autonomy. With this extra time, they can improve their ability to wash hands, bathe themselves, brush teeth, and wipe their own bums.
Now, when your kids ask for another book, you can lose yourself in the sweet stories and accompanying snuggles, breathing in the present moment.
Now is the time to watch, observe, enjoy, and love on your kids like no other.
Go into the yard and explore, get on the floor and play, or just sit back and watch. Involve your kids in whatever long-standing project you’ve been wanting to do. Make up games and giggle deeply with your children.
Love on yourself and your family. No doubt you need it more than ever.
By diverting your attention and focus away from the challenge of being stuck home to living up the time with your family, I hope you are able to see the glimmer of the silver lining of being in quarantine.
Now, more than ever, I’m sending love and best wishes your way.
If being home has begun to worsen your mental health state, which is very possible, I hope this post helped. If you are in need of support, please reach out to a licensed mental health therapist who conducts therapy via telehealth services.